There once was a time when I actually enjoyed getting on Facebook. I liked posting pictures of what was going on in my life, mainly pictures of me, my cat, or random things. I loved to post status' and see what responses I got from them and how many likes I would get. And I enjoyed reading and looking through what other people on my friends list were posting as well. I even did a little Facebook stalking from time to time (come one we are all guilty of this!).
Now, it's different. Don't get me wrong, I still do hop on Facebook from time to time but now it is only about once a week as opposed to 3-4 times a day (WHOA what a change!). I no longer post status' and in the past 8ish months I have only posted 2 pictures. When I do get on, it is mainly to read what other people are saying. Typically I read for a few minutes; get aggravated and then log off.
I do not understand WHY people feel the need to tell their 564654 friends on Facebook everything they are doing! Stop worrying about telling other people what you are doing in your life and just do it! Live your life! It almost seems like some people are slaves to Facebook, like they HAVE to post what they are doing, when they are doing it, where they are, all the cute pics they are taking. I guess you may even venture to say some people are addicted to Facebook. Maybe some are just so lonely, or bored? Who knows. I have found that the most important things in life are things that are not found online. God and family. How can you worship God or spend time with your family if you are so worried about posting about it on Facebook? Don't you feel weighed down? Having to pull out your cell to post a status that you and the kids are at the Dairy Queen? Why not just GO to the Dairy Queen and enjoy it instead? Why report it to others? Are you trying to make them jealous? Or are you trying to make a image for yourself? So when people think of you they think of you as the mom who takes her kids to do fun things like get ice cream? The fact of the matter is, if people base their opinions of you off the stuff you post on Facebook, they must not know you very well. Why would you want to tell all that stuff to strangers?!? I just don't understand. Please feel free to explain.
I know some of you may be thinking, "Well you do the same thing with your blog!". This is true, to an extent. Blogging is a hobby for me. I do it because I like to write and because I want to have a written journal like thing of the days when my son was growing up, so I can later go back and read them. I know that not very many people look at my blog and I have this blog for me not for anyone else. I post so I can remember my thoughts and things I am doing in my life, not to see what people's reactions are.
Another thing that bothers me: how easy it is for information to reach people through Facebook. I have no pictures of my son on Facebook because I feel it is not safe. I fear for his life and for mine and for Anthony's. Why you may ask? This is because I fear that if my ex (the father of my first son) finds out I have another baby and a family and I am HAPPY that he will get angered and then find out where I live and come and kill us all in our sleep. This may sound silly but this is a TRUE fear. The man is crazy and unstable and that is something that he would do. Facebook would make it very easy for him to contact some mutual friends or random people that commented on something on my page and dig to find where I live. It really blows my mind that there is actually a site out there that offers up so much personal information about a person and their life. It is almost like inviting someone to stalk you. Even if you do not have a page or your page is private, there is STILL information about you in some form or another on Facebook! It is all on other people's pages, you just have to know which ones to click on. This just blows my mind.
Some days I feel Facebook should be shut down, but then I remember the business aspect of it. I do believe that it is a wonderful tool for business' to use to reach potential buyers and for buyers to discover new things. Other than that, I think it is a pretty bad thing to have all that info about yourself out there on the web, in such a known place. Blogs are different, because people can not simply go "Hmmm I wonder what Rose is doing... let me look up her blog!" They have to know your blog first, and in order for them to know your blog chances are you will have to give it to them.
Some days I think about de-activating my Facebook, but I never do. The reason is because they have made it almost necessary to have one! Which is ridiculous! There are some people that the only way I can contact them is through Facebook, forcing me to keep one for those times when I need to contact those people.
It seems like as time goes by people are falling more and more into Facebook and more and more info is being posted on there. For now I can only hope that it will die out someday. But I somehow do not see that happening.
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