"You're feeding him too much."

The other day Anthony and I ran into my uncle at Publix. We chatted for a few minutes and went about our ways. The next day at work (my uncle works at the same place as I do) my uncle came up to me and started making small talk about the sub we had bought the night before at Publix and we got to talking about Anthony and he said to me "You're feeding him too much.".... implying that he was getting fat and it was my fault.

I got to thinking about this. Yes he is right Anthony is gaining weight, I do not know if it is at a steady rate or if he has just gained some weight here and there because we do not have a scale. I can see it in the pictures though that he is gaining weight and has been continually since Bear was born. Is he fat? No. He is normal sized. Could he become fat? Sure. Am I going to try and prevent that from happening? Absolutely not.

I do not want him to be fat, but I honestly feel that it is wrong to try and control what he eats or how much of it he eats. He is a grown man and he should be able to make those decisions himself. If he chooses to eat three helpings of food, he will suffer the consequences. People should be able to eat what they want when they want to, who am I to tell him he can't have more if he is still hungry? It's just not right. And it is not like he is eating 10 times a day or insane amounts or anything like that either. We eat 1 time a day. That's it, just once.

If someone tried to control what I ate or how much of it I ate... it would upset me. Especially if that person was Anthony because I want him to accept me the way I am. I do not want him to see that I am gaining weight and try to stop it, that would honestly hurt my feelings (even though I know he would be doing it for both of our best interests), it would still upset me a lot.

What are your thoughts on this? Is it wrong to control what your spouse eats and how much of it they have to eat? Or do you think that when it's for the better it's ok?